No More Salty?
Reading what a friend blogged recently made me realized that I am no longer being the 'salt' in his life.Why? Unknowingly, I have not been updating this blog for exactly 4 months since my last update.
How have I been? No problem.... and that's the problem. When I have 'no problem' I stopped reflecting, stopped sharing my feelings and thoughts, stopped letting God's word speak to me, no more inspiration to write and has stopped making any difference to no one's life. :( I still go to church every Sunday, though.
Yes, that's what happened to people too. When they have 'no problem' they think that they don't need God.
1 Thessalonians 5:18 says, "In everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you."
I have been immersing my life, my thoughts and feeling with work since then. I have no time to reflect about life or think about others. Maybe that's one way to forget the past and move on with my life. It's a pity that my friend is stuck in his pasts, and can't seem to move past them. I feel sad for him and pray that he can move on soon.
God is always good, always seeing me through each storm of life. Yes, I must give thanks to Him and I hope my friend will too. I will try to reflect more and be inspired to write something that can encourage others.
Labels: feeling, thanksgiving
posted by buzybee @ 3/24/2008 12:40:00 AM
2 Comments:
I don't know all the details, so, as usual, all I can do is offer general comments.
Some people do stay stuck in the past. My oldest friends, whom I've known for more between 34 and 38 years, have not grown. There is a great comfort in getting together with them, but on the other hand, there is a great sadness. The comfort is in the familiarity. The sadness is in seeing so little growth. The last time I got together with them, it was the same as it had been for the last 25+ years. We met in the same basement of a friend's parents house (ok, ok, he does have his own home, a wonderful large home and a wife and 2 kids, but, for various reasons we met at his parents place as we had for so many years). The same people were invited over, the same friends declined for similar reasons they have for decades, the hockey game was on (as it always is), the topics of conversation were pretty much the same as we always had (a lot of talk about hockey).
On the other hand, I want to grow. A few years back I went out with an old friend. We met in the same place we always met, walked the same streets we always walked and talked the same conversations we always talked. I did try to introduce new subjects, but he resisted. He didn't want to stray from the well worn script. I did manage to convince him to go to a Chinese restaurant (he dislikes "ethnic" food), so this was a change, but he did ask me to, "Speak more quietly! You're scaring the other customers." But he hasn't changed (despite having lived in other cities while doing his advanced studies, but returning to Montreal is all he wanted to do, to resume the life he once had), he plays hockey 2-3 per week, he is immersed in his research (he is a scientist and tenured professor at McGill University) and he holds me personally accountable for all the evils wrought in the name of religion (particularly Christianity). He told me that he thinks marriage should be illegal, since it causes friends to have less time for each other (he is not married and I don't think he is in any relationship, aside from hockey and his work).
I find too many people want to go back to the past, to live in the world they inhabited as children. It doesn't happen and you can't go back.
As for having problems ... hmmm ... there is no question that there a certain level of problems, of difficulty in our lives exposes our heart and soul and we feel the need to cry out. I find a great deal of inspiration and inner connectedness (if worldly disconnectedness) when I am down. However, when we are feeling better, we no longer have the need to cry out, to send our voice and anguish out into the world. Saying something and having something to say are two different things. Sometimes we just don't have anything to say. I know that there are times when I have difficulty finding topics to blog about. I don't want to be repetitive. I don't want to be stuck and fixated on just one thing (there are a lot of bloggers who are stuck on just one thing - usually relationship). I am sure you will find you voice if you have something to say.
I miss your blogging and your visits too, but I can live with that as long as I know you are happy and doing well.
Don't fall into the trap of burying yourself in your work. I don't want you to look up when you are 40 and think that you should have lived more. God made this creation for us to enjoy and invites us to do so, so be a good guest and enjoy responsibly the life He has given us.
Hello Richard,
Thanks for visiting my quiet blog to give such a 'long speech'... hehe. xie xie (thank you in Chinese) :D
Well, I am trying to blog again at my old/new blog "JONE". You are welcome to visit me there. I did read your posts but didn't comment much. :P
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